Responding to Painful Times

Dear Friends:

What painful times we are living in. What has prepared us to respond to this?  Perhaps we are ill prepared in some ways, but in other ways, we can learn. Our Unitarian siblings in Romania lived under a dictator and learned to be sly in preserving their heritage and to teach their children carefully and quietly. We can do that, too. 

Those among us who are accustomed to living with oppression know about keeping humor close at hand and not letting an oppressor take away one’s inner dignity, even while confined.  Let us follow that model. When the pressure is on, hate is too easy.  Those who have lived in a police state remind us to be kind to those living through this horror alongside us.  

Build up the songs that uplift you so you can lead the singing in the prison cell.

Memorize the words that strengthen you so you can silently recite them while others would torment you.

Like many black people in this country, Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. navigated a government that sought to dehumanize his people. Let us learn from his life experience and others who are not famous, yet whose steady non-violent training gave them great influence.

On Monday, in honor of that struggle and hope, may you find a way to deepen your spiritual muscles for our justice work, and for sustaining neighborly care. 

With respect and tenderness,
Rev. Alex

Somewhere we must come to see that human progress never rolls in on the wheels of inevitability. It comes through the tireless efforts and the persistent work of dedicated individuals who are willing to be co-workers with God.

From “Remaining Awake Through a Great Revolution” By Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. Delivered at the National Cathedral, Washington, D.C., on 31 March 1968.

Social Hall Enhancement Project Update

The UUFC Building Enhancement Team has begun discussions with Varitone Architects to begin planning the changes to the social hall and community kitchen. We are in information-gathering mode right now and will have a table in the social hall after Sunday worship service for the next 2-3 weeks. Please stop by, fill out a survey, give us your opinions and take a look at some sample plans for the space. We need your input in order to create a plan that works for everyone.

If you have questions please contact any member of the team that includes Nick Houtman, Russ Anderson, Carolyn Madsen, John Bailey, Michael Hughes, Wolfgang Dengler, Carl English-Young and Brian Egan

UUFC Annual Meeting, 5/17

Save The Date! The UUFC Annual Meeting will be Sunday May 17 at 12 noon after worship service. All members are needed to vote in our Fellowship elections for Board Officers, Directors, and Committee Chairs. All are invited to celebrate our accomplishments of the past year, review our financial health, and share in our future goals. (Last year’s meeting adjourned at 1:05 PM – short and sweet.) See you there!

Childcare is available!

Free childcare can usually be arranged for any Fellowship event by using this link 1-2 weeks prior to the event.

Tamales for a Cause, 1/30

Join us for an evening of community and learning! Discover how to make your own tamales! Materials and instruction provided. Participants will leave with ready-to-cook tamales. Suggested donation to support our immigrant neighbors $20-$50.

Friday, January 30, 5:30-7:30 PM in the Social Hall

Registration required: https://forms.gle/TyJEtKGHc4hFvCD89
Contact: Nancy K.

Childcare is available!

Free childcare can usually be arranged for any Fellowship event by using this link 1-2 weeks prior to the event.

Parenting Resources for Challenging Times

With all that is escalating in the world around us, I want to provide a few resources that families have found helpful as they navigate the highly personal decisions about how to talk to their children and youth about the terrible things happening in the world. If you have others to add that you feel would be useful to our Fellowship families, please send them to dre@uucorvallis.org

A primary skill we can all develop and use as our children’s first and primary spiritual leaders is developing our capacity for self-regulation. Whatever it is we need to talk to our children about, whether it’s the news or their chores, the potential for positive outcomes is higher when we enter into it with awareness of our own emotions and how they’re participating in the way we are showing up with our children. Without realizing it, the stress we carry in our own bodies can easily spill into our interactions, word choices, patience levels, and more. Dr. Amber Thornton has loads of resources on self-regulation for parents. Below is just one of her many offerings on the topic.

The Fred Rogers Institute has offered a great PDF about talking with children about difficult things in the news. You can access the full 2-page guide by clicking HERE.

“When children bring up
something frightening, it’s
helpful right away to ask them
what they know about it. We
often find that their fantasies
are very different from the
actual truth. What children
probably need to hear most
from us adults, is that they can
talk with us about anything
and that we will do all we
can to keep them safe
in any scary time.

For an at-a-glance list of things to keep in mind for developmentally appropriate conversations at every age and stage, check out this one-sheet from the Children’s Network and Early Risers.

And finally, the National Child Traumatic Stress Network has offered a guide to Talking to Children About the Shooting, which can be accessed HERE.

My door is always open if you find yourself in need of additional resources or thought partnership through this moment in history. I also encourage all of our parents to take advantage of the Parent Connection Dinner on the second Thursday of each month. Strengthening your connections to the village and having a designated place to talk about what’s hard with people who are fielding similar questions and facing similar challenges can make a world of difference!

Adult Coming of Age (2/19-3/26 @ 3:00-4:30) Register by 2/5

WHEN: Thursdays from 3-4:30 from February 19th through March 26th

WHERE: Room 7

WHAT: Adult Coming of Age is a program designed to help each participant examine who they are at this unique moment in time, look back at the people and events that have shaped them in meaningful ways, and clarify the values, priorities, sacrifices, and gifts that will shape this season of life.

As spiritual beings evolving in a physical world, we are never done becoming who we mean to be, and the Coming of Age program for adults honors that at every age, we are crossing thresholds, seeking clarity, and held by circles of support.

This year’s round of Adult Coming of Age is offered earlier in the day to accommodate those who cannot drive at night. Because this is a challenging time for many with full-time jobs, we will offer the next round in the evening.

Registration is required for this gathering. 

January 18, 2026 – Can I Let You Have Your Story?

In anticipation of Martin Luther King, Jr. Day, let us consider whose version of his story we know. Widening the lens, let us consider what versions of someone else’s story we are willing to hear. If we truly live our inclusive values, what discomfort comes with accepting a person’s whole story?

Rev. Alex McGee will preach

ICE Out For Good Rally, 1/10

Indivisible and a broad coalition of national partners are banding together for the nationwide weekend of action!

ICE Out For Good Weekend of Action
This Saturday (tomorrow), January 10, Noon – 2 PM.
At the Benton County Courthouse in Corvallis.

This is a non-violent and peaceful event for all ages!